We all love differently, some of us love like dogs and some of us like cats.
Roger has a dog heart I am definitely a cat.
Let me expound on the differences.
Dog hearts are deeply loyal and fun loving. They adore always being connected to their loved one. Separation is painful and never wanted. I often have to lock Judah in the house when I am working on the back porch because he is so large and doesn’t realize how he slows me down in my focus and desire. Judah doesn’t understand that I want to go use the restroom by myself and will often lie down cry outside my door which drives me a little insane. Now I love the dog hearted people. I love their loyalty and their energy and their constant excitement and desire to be close to me. But I’m a cat hearted person and can’t be made into a dog hearted person.
A cat loves to be on their own and then totally adore their person when it’s time. We love to interrupt our person and make sure we are always number one even if we don’t want their total focused attention all the time. If I pick up one of my cats and force my attention on them they squirm right out of my arms, but if I lay down and rest they come to share my space and love on me. One of the things we had to learn early on in our marriage is that God wired us differently and we were never going to be like each other but that we can yield to the other when it was important.
Roger is never going to be as independent as I am and I am never going to want to be with Roger every second of every day but we learn to assess each other needs and by understanding our specific personalities we can serve each other without disappointment.
The more space you give it cat the more the cat adores you with intentionality and the more you understand the needs and wants of a dog the more deliberate one can be about making sure that each others needs are met.
Somehow I find it funny that God in his economy pairs up dog and cat hearts in order to have us grow in our ability to love others well that are unlike ourselves.
After 26 years of marriage I adore my man and appreciate how very different we are from one another.